Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Lifelong Love or Lust

Dear Zane,

I recently started reading your blog and I see that you help misguided men and women in their relationships, so I have a situation to discuss with you......I am 23 yrs old and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 yrs. I love him to death and I think he is the man that I will marry and spend the rest of my life with. The only problem is our sex life. He is a little on the "small" side, which leaves me feeling unfulfilled after we have sex. Now don't get me wrong, in the right position, I make it do what it do....but I don't want to have to do that the rest of my life. Am I wrong for letting sex determine if I should marry a man or not?


Signed,
Lifelong Love or Lust


Dear Lifelong Love or Lust,

Only you can decide the degree of importance sex has in your life. He is not going to suddenly grow a bigger dick and you already know how to make it work and what to expect. No miracles are going to occur. After three years, there must be a lot more to him, for you to be contemplating marriage. Women throughout the ages (and men) have had to make some sacrifices in the name of love. If he respects you, cares for you, and loves you, those three things put you ahead of the game. The grass is rarely greener on the other side; it is usually dirt.
I do not want you to think that I take your question lightly. I realize that your concern is genuine or you would not have reached out to me. But I can only advise you from afar. You are the one living your life and there is still time to consider your options. Unless he is pressing you into marriage, and I did not hear anything about a proposal, then go with the flow and see where your heart leads you.

Blessings,
Zane

1 comment:

~Tara said...

Hey Lifelong Love or Lust if you are a Christina I say DON'T GET MARRIED!!!! Please take it from someone who was in your situation!!!! I had a choice and now I am in relationship in which I do love him but we do not have sex anymore. If you want to understand more please feel free to write me and we can talk

~T