Husband Material

Dear Zane,

It's been a while since I've written you. Congrats on your show; it is off the hook. I TIVO it every Friday. I'm writing to ask you a question. I’m sure you get this a lot but I really need your help. I'm a nice-looking, hard-working brother that can't get his relationship house in order. Why is it that women say they want a good man but when they get one, they say he's too nice? What the hell does that mean?

I have no baggage, I don't cause drama, and I'm respectful. I just met this chick that is using me to make her baby-daddy jealous. This guy does not take care of his kids and has cheated on her. I have stepped in and done my best to show her I'm here for her but I can't get her to see that I'm a good man. I am a balanced guy with looks, a good job, good sex, and personality. But women always say I'm husband material. I thought being husband material was a good thing but it appears to be a curse.

So with all these dead beats out here...why do women want guys that treat them so bad? Is our society this backwards? Please help me. Hey...u can hook me up with Patrice Fisher! (LOL) Continued luck and love for your continued success. Have a good one!!

Signed,
Husband Material

Dear Husband Material,

You are picking the wrong women, women with serious issues and low self-esteem. A lot of women do not believe a relationship is genuine unless it is plagued with drama, competing for their men, and even verbal and physical abuse. It can stem from how they were raised and what they witnessed. That is why it is so vital for women not to subject their children to a bunch of nonsense, because they are simply creating the next generation of themselves.

Why would you even try to prove yourself to a sister who is using you to make her baby daddy’s jealous? If she cannot see that you are a good man, you need to move on instead of competing for her affections with a man who does not even do for his kids. Any woman who expects love and respect from a man who can turn his back on his children is only asking for trouble. She must crave it like her next breathe. Move on and leave her to regret her behavior ten years down the road when that idiot is still mistreating her.

While a lot of society is backwards, there are normal women who want a man like you. The problem is that you are running after the wrong women. You are settling for a situation that you know is not right for you and you can expect nothing but what you are getting because of it. Just do not allow the experiences with these silly women to turn you into a non-caring man. Then that will only men the good man dating pool decreasing by yet another member.

Blessings,
Zane