Dear Zane,
There's this guy and I find myself really attracted to him. But the problem is we work together, I don't believe in mixing business with pleasure, and there is a 5-year age difference. I know that he's something special because every time he comes around me, I smile and act all giddy, but I can't help but think that the age difference is going to become a problem for us so. For now, I’m just being an associate because I don't know if we should take it there and I also can't help thinking what if we don't work out and then, because we work together, it messes with our relationship at work.
Signed,
Five Years Younger
Dear Five Years Younger,
A five-year age difference is not tremendous when it comes to adults. I sense that you are somewhat young. There is nothing wrong with the age as long as you are both over eighteen. If you were saying ten years, then I might have a bigger comment.
The bigger issue is working together and taking the risk of ruining that relationship. Sometimes we read more into someone’s kindness than what is actually there. I have had many men make the assumption that I was romantically interested in them when that could not have been further from the case. I would suggest continuing to have a crush on him, establishing a good friendship, but leaving it at that. He may or may not already have a woman and you do not want to make a move and then have to suffer embarrassment daily at work.
Blessings,
Zane
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Usually I would say no or it depends on what age it is because 5 years between 30 and 25 or 25 and 20 is a clear cut hell yeah it mattaers because of maturity level but if its 30 and 35 or 40 and 35 I would say no. Dnt be afraid go for yours-I keep hearing there arent many good men left so forget about the fact that yall work together-u gotta find your somewhere. :)
how do I write you about an issue I have?
I'm 19 my boy friend of four months is 27.
Issue? older men say it won't work.
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