I realize that you are a very busy woman but I need a little bit of help. I am twenty-one years old and will be married for a year on my birthday. Here is the thing, my sex life sucks. I am bisexual and I want to have a threesome because I have never had one before. My husband will not let me. I realize that is selfish to say but there are some people who want to have a threesome with me and I want to do it with them. But I do not want to hurt my husband. My other question is how can I spice up my sex life with a man who seems to have no time for me anymore? Any advice would be helpful.
Dear Sexless Marriage,
Regarding the threesome, that is something that should have been discussed and decided upon before you got married last year; especially since you are bisexual. You knew that the possibility would exist for you to crave being with a woman. Your husband should and can expect you to confine your sex within the marriage, unless a mutual decision is made to do otherwise. The decision you must make is if you are willing to throw your marriage away to be with others. It may have been better to stay single. I often wonder why people get married and then want to have sex with others. Marriage is not mandatory and you could be single and have sex with whomever you want, whenever you want. But you chose to get married and I will assume you did that out of love. So, if you love him, you may have to make a sacrifice and place his feelings above your desires. He has made it clear that anything else is unacceptable.
As for him not having any time for you, that could be from a variety of things. One such thing might be the fact that you have made him feel sexually inadequate by asking to bring someone else into the bedroom. Some men get jealous of sex toys and masturbation, rather less their wife fucking other people. You need to sit him down and have a very candid discussion with him about your marriage and your concerns. Implement two “date nights” per week where both of you are on time and ready to spend quality time. That is a good start but do not start tripping on your marriage in less than a year. You are young but a commitment is a commitment.