Tuesday, June 9, 2009

When Your Man Tries to Throw a Threesome On You at the Last Minute

Dear Zane,

Let me get to the point. The other day, my partner and I were having sex. Once we finished about thirty minutes later, he told me that he knew another girl who was down for a threesome. He also stated that she was on her way over. I told him, “Hell no!” I wasn’t going to have a threesome with her; I didn’t know shit about her. On top of that, it would have been the first time. I want to have a threesome but not with anyone where I live. All I’m asking is: how do I go about the threesome, or doing something to make him happy for the time being. Thank you.

Sincerely,
Looking for An Easy Fix



Dear Looking for An Easy Fix,

It was very disrespectful for your man to attempt to spring that on you out of the blue. First off, unless you feel totally comfortable about having a threesome, you should not do it. The only reason to do it is if it appeals to both you and your man. People should never compromise their happiness and comfort level for another person. If you are up to it, then you need to tell him to set up a dinner or a night out with this other woman, so you can get to know her. Why should he expect you to simply hop in the sack with someone you don’t know? Whether it is a man or a woman, it makes no difference. Unless you are the type to have a bunch of one-night stands, he should have known better.

As for making him happy for the time-being, try role-playing. Talk nasty to him and pretend like you are someone else. Tie his ass up and ride him like a bronco. Ask him what else he fantasizes about, other than a threesome. Communication is always key.

Blessings,
Zane

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Dear Looking for An Easy Fix,

Comprising ones happiness or beliefs just to please our partner is a ticket to the land of regret. It sounds like your man is selfish...not taking your feelings into account with a matter as important as this one, makes you question what else will he take for granted? Stand up for what you believe in and don't fall for anything less.

Imani True said...
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Imani True said...

Sounds like he may have already slept with this person or wants to and is using the threesome as a means to do it with your approval. She is definitely not a TOTAL stranger based on how he planned to just jump her into your bed without any input or hint from you! How in the hell is she "on her way over" while he's still in bed with you? Anonymous is dead-on with her advice..what else is he doing on the side? And what else is he ASSUMING you will do? Check your man! And don't do the threesome unless YOU want to! This sounds crazy!

Unknown said...

I agree. This whole thing sounds suspect. Why would he be discussing a threesome with the other woman before he discusses it with you?! That other woman is probably just that.....the other woman. I'd check his ass for sure!

peachdrippinwet said...

First of all be cautious because he has already slept with her, and if you do decide to get down with them got take an STD check up(all 3) and HIV as well. Sex is great but it ain't worth dying for. NEVER COMPROMISE WHO YOU ARE FOR ANOTHER BECAUSE YOU WILL BE HURT IN THE END.