I'm a young, black, college student, fairly attractive with a problem. I feel as if my size is my downfall. I'm not horribly small but I'm not as big as I want to be. Right now I'm 6.5 inches. I want to give every girl that I have sex with their best sexual experience but I feel as if my size won't allow me to. But from a woman’s point of view, am I able to have mind blowing sex? Am I putting too much into the tool and not enough into the skill? Or is it a lack of experience. I'm not a virgin, I had sex with a good 7-8 girls, but I don't remember making any of them reach an orgasm. I was told that I have given orgasms out but I didn't believe them. I almost gave one girl an orgasm but she said I killed it. What would you do if you were a man in my situation?
Can I Make It Rain
Dear Can I Make It Rain,
The entire big dick theory causes a lot of drama. Six and a half inches is plenty and honestly, a lot of men with elephantine dicks have no clue what to do with them. You are young and a lot of the young ladies you are messing around with might not even be totally comfortable with their own sexuality. Climaxing for women is not the same as it is for men. It is obvious when a man comes but not always as obvious with women. Some women do not even know when they climax. They are used to these explosive ones that come from masturbation and think it should be like that during sex. So do not expect any aftershocks, eyes rolling into the back of heads, or shuddering. If I were a man in your situation, I would be loving and caring toward the women that I have sex with; I would make love to their mind long before I ever hop in the bed with them, and I would hold them afterwards and let them know how special they are to me. I would be romantic, sincere, and compliment them on a regular basis. I would make them feel special and hope that they would realize how special I am in return. Do not make sex a mechanical thing; that is a certain setup for emotional turmoil. If women say you please them, believe them. If they continue to make love to you, embrace it. You cannot change the size of your dick; but you can make sure you have a huge heart.