I am eighteen and I have been with my brother’s best friend for a year now but no one in my family realizes that we are together. I am so in love with this guy and I think that he feels the same about me. The sex is off the hook with him. I have had the pleasure of growing with him sexually. We have experienced everything together, but the problem is that he has a girlfriend.
He tells me that he loves me but the only reason why he won’t break up with her for me is because of my family. He doesn’t want to ruin his friendship with my brother. I told him that it does not matter what my brother has to say.
I try to leave him but it is too damn hard. I love him so much and he was the first guy. I lost my virginity to him. The sex is so fucking good. Please give me advice.
Dear Miss Confused,
Allow me to clear up some of your confusion. Men can say anything but you must judge a man by his actions. He will not break up with his girlfriend because of your family but he will continuously sleep with you? That does not make sense and if something does not make sense, it is a lie. He is using you. He took your virginity and now he continues to make visits to the well and will continue until that well runs dry and you stop allowing him to have his way with you.
If he truly loved you and was afraid of what your family would think, he may attempt to have a secretive relationship with you but he is not going to have another woman. What is she supposed to be? A cover story? Darling, wake up and smell the shit. Leaving him is not the right term because you are not with him. You need to stop having sex with him and spend that time and effort on school and meeting young men who will respect you. However, you cannot expect or demand respect from others until you respect yourself. As for your brother, I am quite sure that your brother would be a hundred times more upset to find out that his best friend has been screwing his sister, while engaged in a relationship with someone else, than he would be to find out that the two of you were interested in one another.