Lost in a World of Attraction

Dear Zane,

I am twenty-eight years old. I am in the process of getting a divorce. I left my husband because I caught him cheating with another woman in my house. I went to jail behind it and made it my business to move on. Once I got out of jail I left him and started my life over. I have accomplished a lot without him. Now I am hearing that he is looking for me in order to reconcile. I am not giving him the time of day to reconcile shit. It has been a year and a half since we separated. I just got back in the game.

I met a guy a little younger than me but age does not matter, as long as I am not robbing the cradle. But since we met, it was an instant connection and I like him. I am scared to take it to the next level with him because of my last relationship. He asked me to be the one in his life but how do I explain to him that I am not shutting him out but just not ready to take it to the next level? I have read Dear G Spot and have tried to take some of the advice you have given to others. But it is just not the same situation.

Sincerely,
Lost in a World of Attraction


Dear Lost in a World of Attraction,

You have been through a lot, including being locked up behind a man. Not many women can even claim that one. It is not a surprise that you would feel cautious now and all I can say is this. Make sure that you are not constantly seeking out the same type of men, age difference aside. A lot of us seek out the same type of men—the wrong ones for us—or men who mean us no good seek us out because we give off certain vibes. As long as you feel this young man is different, do not prevent yourself from obtaining happiness. Otherwise, you are only letting the ex control you, even though he is nowhere in sight. Tell him that you like him but you need time to continue to heal. Do not stop him though; go with what feels right and the second you feel a red flag, do not ignore it.

Blessings,
Zane